April 10th, 2010

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OtherPayVanilla Date 1: Lesson Learned

My lesson learned from my first date with someone from OtherPayVanilla: always insist on seeing full length photos prior to meeting someone. Guy #2 had only one photo posted on his profile, a closeup of his face taken from a flattering angle looking sort of down on him. I was a little unsure based on the photo whether I'd be attracted to him, but I figured it was not necessary to ask for more photos, because I might not be able to tell any better until I met him. After meeting him, I'm fairly certain that photo is at least a few years old. And as soon as I walked into the restaurant and saw him, I knew this wasn't going to work. He had to weigh at least 300 pounds. And the part of him that I'd already seen in his photo (from the shoulders up) looked substantially heavier than his photo.

Now, this isn't to say that heavy = disgusting, but, having sampled all sorts of men in my time, I've found that my preference for long term intimate relationships is for men who are anywhere from trim to a few extra pounds. Everyone has their preferences, and I know quite a few ladies who dig the big dudes, but they're just not for me. Had I seen an accurate full length photo during the communication process, I would have politely rejected him and saved us both the time and energy involved in meeting.

The conversation was pleasant, he seemed like a nice guy, but I felt absolutely zero spark or chemistry with him. And that Italian restaurant I'd been looking forward to trying, the one which he said was quite good... was pretty sub-mediocre. So, I had a pleasant lunch with him and went on my merry way, with no intention of trying either of them (man or restaurant) again.

So it would seem that OtherPayVanilla neither takes one's body type preferences into account when making matches, nor displays anything about it on users' profiles - so from here on out I will be sure to see full length photos before I agree to meet anyone from OtherPayVanilla in the future.

Oh well, lesson learned.