April 9th, 2010

BlogVixen, Vixen

That OTHER dating site, day four

Well, I've been on OtherPayVanilla for four days now, and it's time for an update on my experience so far.

First of all, there are a BUNCH of steps in between being sent a match and actually getting to TALK to your match. Each morning, you find a new crop of matches (usually 5-7, although today I only got one, *sniffle*) waiting in your inbox. You review their profiles, and reject any you don't like right away. I rejected most of mine - because they keep matching me with men who are at the very upper end of my acceptable age range (and look even older) or men with young kids (the site only distinguishes between having kids with you full time or not - part time parents are grouped in with non-parents). But those I like, I get to choose five out of 20 or so multiple choice questions to send to them. And then they do the same in return. Then I get to send them my list of 10 "must haves" and "can't haves" in a partner (chosen from a list of 50 or so qualities). Then he sends me his back. Then I choose a few open-ended essay type questions from a list and send them to him. He answers them and sends back his own for me to answer.

And THEN, then after ALL of that, we can exchange actual open-ended emails.

Seems like a lot, doesn't it?

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