March 16th, 2010

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More from Mr. Guy

After my first date with Mr. Guy led to plans for a second date, I reminded him that before we went out again, I wanted to speak to Mrs. Guy and confirm with her that everything was on the up and up (and that her story matched his). I was pretty sure it would, given that I'd gotten confirmation from bARTender, but I still wanted to check with her. He said that she'd spent the last several days with bARTender (who, if you remember, is her new Dom), but that he'd ask her to call me when next he spoke with her.

The next morning, I got an IM from bARTender, who, true to form was trying to stick his nose in where it didn't belong and control things that are none of his business - which quickly got my hackles up. I suppose I shouldn't have been surprised, given past experience with him.

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Impromptu first date...

Last night I went on an impromptu first date with a guy I met on FreeVanilla. We had a couple of entertaining online conversations, and I discovered that he recently joined an organization in which some friends are prominent members, and he'd recently met them (yet another small world connection in my dating adventures). So, when our conversation led to a spur of the moment dinner invitation, I figured, why not, I was hungry.

But… I was underwhelmed. There were a lot of minor red flags - things that by themselves weren't serious problems, even characteristics shared by past mates, but add them all up, and well, an army of little red flags can be just as bad as one big one. Add that to the generally unenthusiastic reaction I had to him physically, and it added up to "um, we had an enjoyable meal and conversation, but I'm not feelin' the dating thing here."

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