January 15th, 2010

BlogVixen, Vixen

The return of a Barney

Today, I was browsing through a feature on FreeVanilla that encourages you to rate the profiles of people with whom they want to match you. If you both rate one another highly, the program notifies you both of the mutual match. And, even though you have little control over which profiles the system shows you when you’re doing this, when you view someone in this application, you show up in their list of people who’ve visited their profile (which some people take as an indicator of interest, even when it’s not).

I saw a guy who looked kind of familiar… but in the sense that I thought perhaps I’d seen his profile before elsewhere. I definitely hadn’t seen that particular screen name or those particular photos before. He seemed appealing enough, so I rated him highly and moved on.

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When a good date isn't good enough

I met the latest dating candidate on FreeVanilla a few months ago. After we'd chatted for a few days, it became apparent that he wasn't really quite ready to start dating following his very recent split from his wife. Having had my fill in the last year of men who think I'm awesome and just the sort of woman they'd want to date if they wanted a committed relationship, but they're too close to their recent splits to be ready for that yet, I begged off. He admitted he wasn't ready and might need to step back from the meeting new people thing until he was. I suggested he get in touch if he found himself ready to date again, and then wrote him off, assuming I'd never hear from him again.

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