If you've been reading this blog for long, it will come as no surprise when I say that I am a very sexual person.  I love sex, I'm really good at it, and if I had my druthers, I'd be in a long term relationship where we were having sex several times a day on an ongoing basis.  But, as this blog evidences, I'm not in a long term relationship, so I'm not getting anywhere NEAR that - although I was, for a while, when I was seeing Nate.  So am I celibut in between relationships and 'testing the waters' with new relationship candidates?  Hardly.  I've been a swinger for most of my adult life, and I'm no stranger to having 'friends with benefits'.  As I've been on my dating adventures, my general attitude has been that I'm not looking for friends with benefits, but if I start dating someone and as we get to know each other we have good interpersonal and physical chemistry but there are factors that make us a poor match for long term romance, I have no problem with maintainting that friends with benefits situation.  But I turn down guy after guy after guy who contacts me looking expressly for that, because usually a guy who isn't even open to the possbility of a relationship with a woman should they find deep chemistry has issues (and is, in my experience, likely to treat women poorly).  And typically they're not truly looking for friends with benefits, they're looking for a warm hole they can fuck without having to give the resepct and decent treatment a friend would deserve. 

So, I've been single for the better part of a year now, but between guys I met intending to date but kept as playmates when it didn't turn towards romance and married friends in open relationships who I've known since I was a married swinger, my sex life has remained relatively active.  But lately, my stable of a small handful of friends with benefits in semi-regular rotation has dwindled.  It's not that the friendships have ended, but that schedules or other things going on in their lives have precluded getting together for any playtime (and will continue to preclude it for the time being).  As a result, I've been experiencing a bit of a dry spell lately.  I went from getting as much sex as I could handle when I was seeing Nate back to occasional dalliances with playmates to, well, pretty much nothing.  This will not do.  As much as I've been disinterested in meeting guys who're just looking for no strings attached sex, lately the lack of sex in my life has had me reconsidering starting to accept some of those 'no strings' offers.  However, I'm not thrilled with that idea for a number of reasons, so it's remained in the "considering" phase.

But, in life (and in my sex life), there is ebb, and there is flow.