I just got a charming (yes, that's sarcasm) introductory email from a guy on FreeVanilla.  It opened with "My name is Kevin, I like your outtake. I must say that you're a woman of good standard's the non-religious thing is somewhat disturbing but i know that God loves us all."

First of all...  you like my outtake?  Do you mean outlook but are too stupid to choose the right word?  Second...  my being non-religious is disturbing to you?  But it's ok because God loves me?  I was tempted to reply "How comforting to know that an invisible mythological being loves me!  I assure you that your religiosity is as disturbing to me as my non-religiosity is to you." - but I didn't want to encourage starting a dialogue.

As CdC astutely observed (and quoted from some internet meme or another) when I mentioned the email:  "Christianity is the belief that a cosmic Jewish Zombie who was his own father can make you live forever if you symbolically eat his flesh and telepathically tell him you accept him as your master, so he can remove an evil force from your soul that is present in humanity because a rib-woman was convinced by a talking snake to eat from a magical tree"

Yeah, I am a woman of science, and Christianity and religion in general is not for me.

-Vixen




 

Throughout the course of my adult life, I have practiced many different relationship paradigms, from strict monogamy to all flavors of swinging to open relationships to full on polyamory. But I don't advertise this to the men I meet online - as far as they're concerned, I'm little Miss Traditional Monogamous.

So why is it every time I meet a guy who's interesting, attractive, intelligent, cool, and otherwise someone I'd want to keep around, he turns out ot be married and polyamorous?

Having tried all flavors of relationship openness, I've decided that (for me) polyamory is fundamentally flawed (as there is virtually always an imbalance that leaves one or more people involved unhappy and with unmet needs), and not something I want to do again. I don't want to fall head over heels in love with someone who will never be able to truly "be" with me in a long term committed living together kind of way (you know, because they already have that with somebody else). So for me... ultimately I expect I will end up somewhere between monogamous and swinger, depending on my partner's comfort zone.