After my first date with AnotherRealtor, I had some reservations, but felt more or less willing to go out with him again and see how things went. But the more and more I thought about it and talked about the date with friends, the more I thought I should trust my instincts that that there was a lack of chemistry and an abundance of skeeziness, and give this guy the boot.

So, this morning when I got up there was an instant message waiting for me in his usual complimentary style saying that he wanted to see me when I returned from the business trip I'm about to take.

I responded: "Hi AnotherRealtor... I'm sorry, but the more I think about it, the more I think we're not a good match. On our first date you went from totally platonic, not even a hug goodbye, to implying/suggesting 10 minutes later that you come over and have sex with me. I find that kind of behavior really offputting. So, best of luck to you, but I don't think we'll be going out again."

Ahh, poor boy. He'll be so disappointed. Good thing I don't care.

-Vixen

I met Another Realtor recently on SexSite. After our online and phone chats, he seemed attractive and charming - a little too charming... my Barney sensors were going off (see for more info about Barneys There were lots of little signs that he might be a total "charm the pants off you" type of dishonest player... but which could also just be signs that he's a genuinely friendly and flirty but very decent guy. No way to tell without meeting him.

So, with many reservations, I agreed to meet AnotherRealtor for lunch today. In the several days between when we made the plans and we met, he sent a charmingly sweet message each day akin to "looking forward to meeting you and seeing those beautiful eyes in person." I appreciated the compliments but it had my spidey sense tingling that he was full of shit. I've I were younger and more naiive, I would be totally looking forward to this hot guy who seemed to be totally into me and really looking forward to meeting him, only to be disappointed when it flaked out. But there was the possibility that he could be on the up and up, so I had to give a chance to meeting him.

In one phone text conversation where were discussing the new Palm Pre I'd bought on release day, he jumped to "What are you wearing today? I bet they look stunning. Did they take a photo of you for marketing purposes, if not, they should have."

He couldn't have been more wrong, considering I'd rolled out of bed and thrown on jeans and a t-shirt before running to the store to get in line for my newest techno toy. I said "Ha, there's the charmer again". For some reason (that reason being past experience with disingenuous guys who'll say anything to charm a woman into bed), whenever he says sweet and charming and suggestive things, my hackles go up, and I get the feeling it's all just a strategy to get me into bed quickly.

Hmm, do I have issues? Am I jaded or simply very perceptive?

( Read on to find out which it is... )