So, unfortunately, my planned date for Friday night with TheMarine did not go off as planned. When we talked after our date on Monday, he said he was going out of town Wednesday, but would be back Friday afternoon, and would very much like to get together Friday evening. Beyond planning on dinner and a movie around 7, we didn't nail down details, planning on touching base on Friday. And when we made the plans, I fully believed he was intent on keeping them.

But here's the thing. I seem to have developed a sixth sense about cancellations. There've been at least half a dozen times over the last couple of times where I had an early (as in second-fourth) date with someone planned, but got a feeling a day or two beforehand that it wasn't going to happen as planned. And, sure enough, my instinct turned out to be right every time I've gotten that feeling. It's a little spooky if you ask me.

( Read on to see what happened )

Yes, my weekend has been a mixed bag. I returned from a business trip Friday evening with plans to go out with Mitch to see a mutual friend's band play. We made the plans about a month ago, and when he invited me to go see the show with him, I asked if Alice would be coming along.

"No, this isn't her kind of music. So this'll be just a you and I thing." That sounded nice, since we don't get a lot of nights out just the two of us. (More often it's a quick meal together or a quick romp together, or an evening out with a group of friends). And, given that the last half a dozen or so times we've tried to get together for a little private nookie time those plans have been thwarted for one reason or another, I was hoping this might be just the opportunity we'd been waiting for.

Buuuut no. Of course not.

( Read on, story ahead... )

I swear sometimes I think the sex gods just don't want me to get any. Mitch and I have had a helluva time getting together for sex lately... our last four attempts at hooking up have been thwarted for one reason or another. It's getting ridiculous, I tell you.

So, we made plans for another attempt to get it on Sunday night. The plan was to meet for dinner, shoot some pool, and come back to my place and have fun experimenting with ropes and floggers and other fun toys.

So imagine my surprise when I walked up to him in the restaurant to see his wife standing beside him.

( Oh yes he did! )

I've only seen Craig a couple of times since he told me I was exactly the sort of woman he'd want to date if only he had the time and energy to devote to dating right now. But it (plus our online conversations) have been enough to convince me of his sincerity about continuing to develop our friendship. We had some plans that fell through last weekend, so he suggested getting dinner and a movie this past Friday. He suggested seeing the new Disney Earth movie. While I admittedly love me some great nature documentaries and watch entirely too much discovery channel, I also admittedly was more in the mood for on of the great summer blockbuster action flicks that's out right now. But it was his suggestion, so I said sure, why not?

( Read on to see how it went... )

When last I posted, I was gearing up to go to a shindig with Mitch and Alice while Craig was out of town at a martial arts competition, a shindig that would include Craig's circle of friends, and Craig's very recent ex-girlfriend.  That all went quite nicely, I must say.  The ex was, as expected, a very pleasant and sweet girl, and was plenty friendly to me.  Then again, she didn't know I'm dating her ex-boyfriend.  While Craig was a frequent topic of conversation among his friends that evening, I kept my mouth shut where he was concerned, since I didn't think it was my place to announce that we were dating, especially when he wasn't there and his ex-girlfriend was.  So, most people there probably were under the impression that I didn't know anyone in their circle of friends besides Mitch & Alice, when in fact, I know Craig and several other of their absent friends who came up in conversation.  

After Craig got back from his trip, he posted a bunch of photos to his Facebook account of his team from the martial arts competition.  And there was one person in particular who looked AWFULLY familiar.  He's a little asian guy named Frances, and he looks an AWFUL lot like a guy who hit me up on SexSite a year or two ago.  We chatted for quite a while and eventually made plans to meet for lunch.  I gave him my usual confirmation call instructions, but he didn't call to confirm - so I didn't go meet him.  Apparently he actually DID want to meet me, and he tried numerous times over the next few months to get me to reconsider and give him another chance.  Eventually I got annoyed by it and just blocked him, having long since decided that he wasn't the guy for me.  Despite having a kickin' body, he was kind of short and I'd decided I just didn't find him that attractive - so add that to the fact that he couldn't be relied upon to do something simple like make a confirmation call for a date, and I decided he wasn't worth my time.

And, as it turns out, he's on Craig's martial arts team.

SMALL FUCKIN' WORLD!

Now, it COULD be a totally different guy.  But really, how many little asian dudes named Frank are there running around town?

I told Craig.  We chuckled over the small world thing.

How odd.

-Vixen

Things are still going pretty spiffy with Craig. After we parted ways Sunday, we got together again Wednesday evening. He was planning on leaving Friday morning for a martial arts competition for several days, and this was the only time we could find in our schedules to get together before then. And even then, our time was limited. He had martial arts training after work and an early morning at work the next day, so we met for a late dinner (without plans for anything afterwards). While I'll admit I was craving some time snuggled up on the couch instead of across a wide restaurant table, we had a really good time across that table, and spent two hours talking about everything from crazy dating stories to books to politics to religion. That part, the interpersonal chemistry part, is really good between us.

( Read on for oodles more... )